The Surprising Benefits Of Fully Accepting Yourself And Being Unapologetically You

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[00:00:04] You are listening to Resilient Life, the podcast where we explore the power of resiliency.

[00:00:10] I'm Nikita Ross.

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[00:00:31] Thank you for joining us for another episode of Resilient Life, the podcast where we

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[00:00:39] Today we have a wonderful guest joining us.

[00:00:43] Will you please introduce yourself, tell us your name and what you love to do in life?

[00:00:49] Hi guys, I'm Cody Dentor.

[00:00:52] And what I like to do in life is just chill and spread positive vibes and energy and

[00:01:01] make other people smile.

[00:01:02] When I see them smile, it makes me happy.

[00:01:05] That's that.

[00:01:06] I love that.

[00:01:07] That is such a kind response.

[00:01:14] I love that.

[00:01:15] Breaking joy to the world.

[00:01:17] Not everyone embarks on it.

[00:01:19] So that's really cool.

[00:01:20] It is very, it makes the world spin, keeps going when you bring everybody else

[00:01:26] up and even like give a positive compliment to somebody just walking out and going outside

[00:01:33] and say, oh, your smile is beautiful.

[00:01:37] Just for no reason.

[00:01:38] It just makes you feel good inside and makes that person feel good because you

[00:01:42] never know what another person is going through.

[00:01:45] So when you give us another person a random compliment that they're not expecting,

[00:01:50] it actually brings their whole spirit all the way up and it lifts them and it

[00:01:54] makes their entire day.

[00:01:56] And that's what I like to do.

[00:01:57] I agree.

[00:01:58] I think that you and I are similar in that way, Cody.

[00:02:02] My family teases me all the time because when we're out doing a family activity like

[00:02:07] dinner or whatever the activity is, I just give compliments.

[00:02:12] I'm just like, oh, you're gorgeous.

[00:02:13] Oh, I love this.

[00:02:15] And it doesn't hurt us to make another human being feel good.

[00:02:20] And they're genuine compliments that I give out.

[00:02:22] It doesn't hurt us to give a human being a compliment and you never know exactly

[00:02:28] what you say, Cody, what another person is going through.

[00:02:33] You never know.

[00:02:34] And it's something I love doing because it makes me happy.

[00:02:37] Yeah.

[00:02:38] Yeah.

[00:02:39] If you do it for the right reasons, it does make you happy.

[00:02:41] The other thing, Cody, with it is it comes back to me.

[00:02:46] There have been days where I have myself not felt great and someone is just randomly

[00:02:51] complimenting.

[00:02:52] And so I'm like, oh, I'll take that compliment.

[00:02:55] So I feel like it comes back.

[00:02:57] Has that happened to you before?

[00:02:59] It does come back to you.

[00:03:00] It has happened to me.

[00:03:02] But it's just like I don't expect anything when I give a compliment.

[00:03:08] And that's not why I'm giving a compliment.

[00:03:10] I don't want you to comment on my jacket or my shoes because I comment on yours.

[00:03:16] But I don't expect it.

[00:03:17] And when I'm not expecting it, it just comes out of nowhere.

[00:03:21] Somebody will say, let's say I give you a compliment and you didn't give me one

[00:03:25] back.

[00:03:26] I'm OK with that.

[00:03:27] Oh, my God. I really love your sweatshirt today.

[00:03:30] Where did you get it? It looks really nice.

[00:03:32] And I'm going to say thank you so much.

[00:03:34] I appreciate that. It made me feel good about myself.

[00:03:36] And this is where I got it from.

[00:03:44] I think I so for me, I in order for me not to give up in life, because

[00:03:50] there's been multiple times that I want to give up in life, I think about

[00:03:54] all the positive things I've done.

[00:03:59] I don't think about the negative because when you think about the negative, it's

[00:04:02] going to bring you down.

[00:04:03] So I think about the positive and all the people that are in my corner that

[00:04:08] are my support team, my family.

[00:04:10] What would happen if I really would have went out with the thought

[00:04:15] process that's in my mind?

[00:04:17] What would happen?

[00:04:19] Not yeah, I wouldn't be here, but I'm being self to me.

[00:04:22] I'm being selfish because my loved ones, the ones that care about me, my friends,

[00:04:27] my family, my dog, you know, I don't have kids, but that is my son.

[00:04:33] So, you know, your kids, you know, you're leaving them behind.

[00:04:36] And to me is selfish.

[00:04:39] So I would I think about the positive, the good things in life.

[00:04:45] What do I have going on for myself to keep me going, to stay strong?

[00:04:51] What is what is my willpower?

[00:04:53] You know, I think about all the things that I have going in order and things

[00:04:57] that are lined up for me, the things that I want to get done that needs to be done.

[00:05:01] I think about my future and that's how I and that's what I when I hear that's

[00:05:05] what I think about.

[00:05:07] I think that's a great definition of resilience because you talked about being

[00:05:12] optimistic, not letting not letting our negative thoughts take over and having

[00:05:18] hope for the future.

[00:05:20] Those are really instrumental elements and being resilient.

[00:05:24] And I love that you also made it personal and talked about how you are

[00:05:28] resilient.

[00:05:29] So I think that's really awesome.

[00:05:31] Thank you for that.

[00:05:33] What made you smile today?

[00:05:36] Everything, actually, I'm just a very smiling person.

[00:05:39] But the one thing that does make me smile when when I wake up that I look

[00:05:43] forward to is actually my dog.

[00:05:46] I adore him.

[00:05:47] I love him with with my heart.

[00:05:49] He's my spirit.

[00:05:51] At the end of the day, he makes me smile.

[00:05:54] And here he is.

[00:05:55] Say hi.

[00:05:56] Tell us about your baby.

[00:06:01] What's his name?

[00:06:02] How long have you had him?

[00:06:04] He's a blue tick coon hound and he's a two years old.

[00:06:10] He just turned to May 5th and just I smile when I'm just having a really

[00:06:16] bad day when I'm having a down messed up day and I'm feeling really

[00:06:22] depressed.

[00:06:23] I just put a smile on my face and I watch something that actually makes me

[00:06:26] smile or in my thoughts, in my head, I think of the good memories.

[00:06:30] And when I think of those good memories, it makes me smile.

[00:06:34] It makes me laugh.

[00:06:35] It makes me giggle.

[00:06:36] And it's OK to giggle at your own thoughts.

[00:06:39] It really is because at the end of the day, you're going to be happy.

[00:06:43] Yeah, yeah, I love that.

[00:06:45] I think what touched me the most about what you're saying is you hit on this

[00:06:51] thing of how happiness is an inside job and you're saying even when I'm

[00:06:57] feeling down or depressed, I smile.

[00:07:01] You're taking control of your emotions.

[00:07:04] And so I love that.

[00:07:06] I think that's probably wise beyond your years.

[00:07:10] So good job at that, knowing that at such a young age.

[00:07:14] How do you celebrate yourself, Cody?

[00:07:16] I celebrate myself.

[00:07:20] They day by day.

[00:07:22] I used to celebrate myself.

[00:07:25] Ahead of time, if that doesn't make sense, let me put it more

[00:07:29] in for two details when I say ahead of time, I mean, like I used to

[00:07:33] move ahead, like as of tomorrow, let's say tomorrow.

[00:07:36] Tomorrow's not here yet.

[00:07:37] Tomorrow's never promised, but I will celebrate as is tomorrow was here.

[00:07:43] It's almost like I'm celebrating every day because you never know.

[00:07:49] I see it as you never know when should come to your last.

[00:07:52] Tomorrow's not promised, you know, and today could be your last.

[00:07:57] You'd never know.

[00:07:58] So I try my best to make the best that I can out of my days by

[00:08:03] celebrating every small thing I do.

[00:08:06] And I have a hard time of showing my emotions.

[00:08:09] You know, like.

[00:08:11] People have a hard time reading me sometimes, like if I'm OK,

[00:08:14] if I'm down, if I'm feeling good because my I have these mixed,

[00:08:19] you know, facial expressions, mixed motion, some things I'm really quiet,

[00:08:23] you know, and I'm feeling and I'm having the best day.

[00:08:25] I can have the best day, be happy in the world, but I can be really quiet.

[00:08:29] And it makes people think that I'm depressed and I'm sad.

[00:08:33] And I'm really not.

[00:08:34] I'm actually just chilling, vibing.

[00:08:37] And I'm actually, to be honest, I'm enjoying my day

[00:08:41] and I'm just listening, just observing, listening to the nature,

[00:08:45] listening to the trees blow, the rainfall drops, the thunderstorms.

[00:08:50] I'm enjoying it.

[00:08:51] And because you never know as I see it when

[00:08:56] when you're going to when you're going to go,

[00:08:58] you never know when's your last.

[00:09:00] So I celebrate every day.

[00:09:02] The things that you're saying, I didn't learn until my.

[00:09:05] Mid to late 30s, so I am so in

[00:09:10] awe of this wisdom that you have at such a young age.

[00:09:14] I am just floored.

[00:09:16] I learned the best my mom taught me.

[00:09:19] She told me to always, always smile, always, always think positive,

[00:09:29] always live as always live and dance as is like no one's watching.

[00:09:33] And then when she said that, I started hearing that everywhere.

[00:09:36] So you people say, you know, you want to be a certain way in public, you know.

[00:09:42] And like, what if you're goofy, you know, in public?

[00:09:46] And then you got to put on that mask to be like, OK, I have to be polite.

[00:09:50] I got to be appropriate.

[00:09:51] You know, I can't be my goofy self.

[00:09:54] To me, you're not living your true form.

[00:09:57] You're not living your true self.

[00:09:58] And when I go in public, you know, I'm living myself.

[00:10:02] I'm living who I am.

[00:10:04] I'm not going to let no one tell me don't act like this in public.

[00:10:07] Yes, I don't act disrespectful in public, but I'm goofy.

[00:10:10] I can't hide my ADHD, my goofiness, you know.

[00:10:13] If I want to like, you know, skip, skip in Walmart, I'm going to skip in Walmart.

[00:10:19] If I'm going to like, you know, if I want to like break out laughing out loud,

[00:10:22] literally, I'm going to break out laughing out loud.

[00:10:24] You know, if I'm going to talk out loud because of my thoughts, I'm going to talk

[00:10:27] out loud because of my thoughts.

[00:10:28] You know, if I'm going to twerk in Walmart, I'm just going to twerk in Walmart.

[00:10:33] I mean, I have no problem with embarrassing myself.

[00:10:38] And yes, I use the word embarrassing because that's what you're doing.

[00:10:41] But at the same time, I'm living my best life, embarrassing myself and laughing

[00:10:45] at those moments and the moment as I'm doing it.

[00:10:49] Long as you're having a good time, that's all that matters.

[00:10:52] Whether it's been public or not in public, I live my life no matter where it is.

[00:10:56] That's very inspiring because we are as a society taught to behave, as you said,

[00:11:02] a certain way when you're in public and to not twerk in Walmart.

[00:11:09] And so I love that.

[00:11:12] That's very inspiring to hear you have that freedom.

[00:11:14] Please always be your authentic self.

[00:11:17] Don't let society pressure you to change.

[00:11:20] I love that.

[00:11:21] Twerk wherever you want.

[00:11:23] Besides work, professional, keep it professional.

[00:11:28] Unless they allow it, then twerk away.

[00:11:31] Then you can talk.

[00:11:33] What is the theme song of your life?

[00:11:37] And so if you think about Cody and you're looking in the mirror

[00:11:41] and you're like, this is the song that embodies me, who I am as a person.

[00:11:46] This song motivates me.

[00:11:49] What's that song?

[00:11:50] So the artist is actually Netflix.

[00:11:53] And the song is called Stronger by Netflix.

[00:11:56] And the reason why Netflix is my to go to, his lyrics are like,

[00:12:03] they speak to you in ways I don't know how to explain it.

[00:12:07] It's hard to explain.

[00:12:08] So for instance, so he goes back and forth.

[00:12:11] He talks negative.

[00:12:12] He talks negative.

[00:12:13] He talks negative.

[00:12:14] He talks negative.

[00:12:15] He talks negative.

[00:12:16] And he talks negative.

[00:12:18] And he talks negative.

[00:12:19] Okay, so sometimes you can get a bit of a

[00:12:21] sense of what's happening in your life.

[00:12:24] So let's talk about this.

[00:12:25] Let's go back to the song and talk about that.

[00:12:28] Let's say I'm talking negative to you.

[00:12:30] Okay.

[00:12:31] And then you're talking positive to me.

[00:12:34] That's how he's doing it in his song.

[00:12:36] But is him saying the negative,

[00:12:37] but he's saying if people bring you down.

[00:12:39] I'm here to lift you up.

[00:12:40] Here's what you need to be telling yourself.

[00:12:42] Instead of listening to these negative.

[00:12:44] Well, here I am. I'm making it in life

[00:12:46] You know like he's telling you to keep your head up

[00:12:48] No matter what the negative the negative comments or what people will say to you

[00:12:53] They will always bring you down or try to bring you down

[00:12:55] It is you who has to bring you up only you have the power of you to control you and what other people

[00:13:03] Say to you you shouldn't let that affect you. You're stronger than that your mind, you know

[00:13:10] That's how he's saying it and that's how I see it and I believe in it and just his

[00:13:16] Just his words alone and his all of his songs are just so powerful and they're all upbringing and they're all like that

[00:13:24] There's just there's motivation in his behind his lyrics again

[00:13:28] I feel like I'm gonna say this throughout this whole conversation

[00:13:32] You just keep hitting on topics that it took me and it's not a competition and everyone is on their own path

[00:13:38] I

[00:13:40] Am just so thoroughly impressed with the knowledge and wisdom that you have so far and

[00:13:47] If you're starting here at this age

[00:13:51] I am just so excited about the growth and the potential that you have as you continue to

[00:13:57] Flourish so kudos for that. Thank you. What have you learned about yourself recently?

[00:14:05] That it's possible

[00:14:07] That it's possible that I was born hermaphrodite. Oh

[00:14:13] Okay, do you want to leave that there I

[00:14:17] Can go deeper actually? Um, okay

[00:14:20] So I went and did some research and through my medical records

[00:14:25] and

[00:14:27] I've noticed that there's things in there that didn't add up and make sense

[00:14:32] I had questions because it stated I was on a depot shot depot shot as everyone knows is a birth control birth control

[00:14:40] Mm-hmm, and it states that I was on a depot shot. So I had questions and I wanted to dig deeper

[00:14:47] Then I realized and start remembering my mom and my auntie Wendy was always saying to me

[00:14:53] it's that time in a month, it's that time in a month again and

[00:14:58] I didn't know what they were saying. I don't know if they were saying because you know, like I'm gay or not, but and

[00:15:05] It wasn't that it was every month and then I have these weird cravings every month is chocolate

[00:15:11] I want and I hate chocolate and I I shouldn't use the word hate

[00:15:15] But I do not like chocolate for some reason because if I have too much chocolate, it's just nasty

[00:15:20] So I don't like chocolate and I would never eat chocolate

[00:15:24] But every month I get cravings now remind you I don't have the lady part

[00:15:32] But I still get cravings I have the same mood swings I get cranky

[00:15:38] It's like I'm on my I'm on my period. It's that time in a month, but I'm not

[00:15:45] And a lot of you say oh this that's like that for everybody

[00:15:50] No, you don't get cravings

[00:15:53] Every you don't get cravings every month

[00:15:57] You don't you're not in a mood every month. Everything is not bothering you if you're not emotional every month and

[00:16:05] all these things are just cracking down and as

[00:16:08] Every day adds up. I just continue continue continue. I'm like, okay

[00:16:13] so when I found that out, I'm like

[00:16:17] It has to be true

[00:16:19] But I also have a doctor's appointment set up

[00:16:23] Tomorrow Wednesday, I'm sent tomorrow tomorrow's Wednesday

[00:16:27] Yes tomorrow's Wednesday to go get blood drawn because I want to know where my hormone balance is

[00:16:33] like my estrogen or my testosterone

[00:16:36] Because as I notice as I for instance when I shave my face, okay, I don't look like a guy

[00:16:43] I look like a female

[00:16:45] Okay, even when I look deeply into the mirror at my face and I just cover up my hairlining

[00:16:51] You know, I push my hair back and I cover this up and I like avoid looking at the facial hair. I don't see a

[00:17:00] Guy I see someone who was born

[00:17:05] With both I see the female in me

[00:17:07] you know my

[00:17:08] The way I talk the way I act the way I talk with my hands the way I move and everybody has pointed out

[00:17:14] You know

[00:17:15] That is possible

[00:17:17] But I'm just putting all the pieces together and find out I was on a depot shot this

[00:17:23] kind of sums everything up of

[00:17:26] Everything and in my mom giving out hands all that time in a month again

[00:17:30] Okay. Well, I mean is it true?

[00:17:33] but I guess the only way I could really find out if my the level of

[00:17:37] My testosterone and my estrogen if my was it the estrogen is higher than the testosterone

[00:17:44] Then that will answer my that will be the final answer of my question because my testosterone should be higher than my estrogen

[00:17:51] And not my estrogen

[00:17:54] But once again, I don't know I think it takes so much courage

[00:18:02] strength determination

[00:18:09] Self-love to

[00:18:11] Say hey, I'm curious and I want to know more about myself

[00:18:15] I want to understand the things that

[00:18:19] May not be clear to me at this time and so

[00:18:24] Kudos to you for taking being your own self

[00:18:28] Advocating and taking your life in your hands and saying I

[00:18:32] Want to know and I'm going to be proactive. I'm gonna talk to a doctor a medical professional

[00:18:38] To figure out what is going on

[00:18:42] So good job in doing that

[00:18:45] Thank you for sharing that you're very welcome

[00:18:48] Is there any support that I can provide just of how I can find out more like

[00:18:54] deeper into it like I

[00:18:56] Don't know how to tell you know, is there supposed to be a scar?

[00:19:00] It's like how can I find out answers like doctors wise, you know, like

[00:19:04] maybe I shouldn't worry about it because like

[00:19:08] To be honest their boat. I'm

[00:19:10] If I was born permafina then who why do I care, you know

[00:19:16] Like I guess it's just my curiosity thoughts just rolling in like okay. I need a big beat what's going on

[00:19:22] Why am I having these symptoms? But then at the same time, you know, you have my I have my other side of me like

[00:19:28] Who cares?

[00:19:30] You're living you're alive. You're walking you're breathing, you know like

[00:19:36] But then you have my curious I like I want no more information, you know, but at the same time I really

[00:19:42] shouldn't

[00:19:43] Worry about it because I'm here now and that's to me

[00:19:48] That's all that matters

[00:19:50] But then the curious side it'll be kind of cool to me if I was

[00:19:54] And I see that as like it puts a smile on my face like oh, hey

[00:19:58] This is what I was but what I claim to be a hermaphrodite. No, I will claim to be me

[00:20:03] I wouldn't change

[00:20:05] You know, I'm still Cody. I'm still a guy. I wouldn't say oh

[00:20:10] Yeah, let's change my sex to a hermaphrodite. No, I'm so guy at the end of the day

[00:20:15] I was this is what I have and this is what I'm gonna live with, you know, yeah, and that's how I see it

[00:20:21] Yeah, I think so first and foremost I have zero

[00:20:26] experience

[00:20:28] In this field in this area. I'm a firm advocate of

[00:20:31] People with lived experience should lead the way and

[00:20:36] So I cautiously give you my thoughts

[00:20:39] With the caveat that I don't have any lived experience in this area. I think both things can be true

[00:20:46] I think I love that you're very self-accepting and saying

[00:20:52] Who cares and you can still want to know?

[00:20:57] Does that make sense and you can get the information knowing that it won't change you

[00:21:02] You're still Cody if you choose to it is your choice

[00:21:06] There is no wrong or right

[00:21:10] answer

[00:21:11] It's you kid to do what you it's your body, right? And so if you want to know

[00:21:18] find out and know that it won't change who you are and

[00:21:22] Still say okay, I have this information now, I'm still Cody

[00:21:28] So I think both things are true both sides how you said you have those both sides

[00:21:32] I think they both came is coexist

[00:21:34] I it is true and I and I like that, you know that you said that because it brings me to realize like it

[00:21:40] brings me hope and joy

[00:21:43] Hope and joy to like and then it makes me think like I just I just want to be me

[00:21:48] You know, I just want to live my life in like what no judgment and knowing that you know

[00:21:53] Like knowing you from meeting in person stuff like that

[00:21:56] You're not a judgy person and stuff like that

[00:21:58] And that's not what I'm saying but knowing that I'm very comfortable with opening up about

[00:22:04] Everything and not caring in the world of who cares of what they see or what they hear and

[00:22:11] That's how I live my life. It's it's just a positive

[00:22:15] Mindset that I have and to me it took me a long time to get there believe it or not

[00:22:22] It took me a while to get there to have this kind of mindset

[00:22:27] And just to be you know, like I don't care what people think, you know, because at the end of the day

[00:22:34] They're not paying my rent. They're not paying my bills

[00:22:36] They're not financially satisfying me in any way any needs at all I am so

[00:22:44] How I see it is if people have anything negative to say it towards me or about me

[00:22:49] I'm going to say my comment. My my comeback is always okay

[00:22:53] Cool. Now, why does that affect you?

[00:22:56] You know like I've been called fag so many times

[00:23:03] You know like I've been called fag so many times, you know fagg

[00:23:09] Yeah. Yes. I've been called that so many times so many times and I used to get so mad about it

[00:23:16] My mama taught me she was like don't let them get underneath your skin

[00:23:20] They see that you're getting that they're getting underneath your skin. They're gonna keep doing it because they see that in bug shit

[00:23:26] You have to have thick skin

[00:23:28] Thick yeah, no matter if you even even if you have thin skin learn how to control your emotions and learn how to control your mouth

[00:23:37] Don't show them that they're winning

[00:23:40] So I learned from her and now I just let people say what they want

[00:23:44] But I always come back with why does that bother you? Why does my sexuality?

[00:23:49] Bothers you why you don't know me. I don't know you

[00:23:54] So why do you feel the need to go out of your way to yell that word?

[00:23:59] Because it's not hurting me

[00:24:01] If anything is hurting you it makes you look bad. You think that's cute

[00:24:07] You think that's funny, but your friends you look at your friends face. They don't see that's funny

[00:24:13] they see that as disrespect and

[00:24:16] That is how I see and how I hold myself. That's how I carry myself

[00:24:21] So I carry and I carry in a world of not to care, you know as it as it like not to care

[00:24:28] about the negativity, you know

[00:24:30] not to give in to that to

[00:24:34] Live as I'm always in them, you know

[00:24:36] I guess you can just say it say um, I guess my one of my best friends says it's an attitude of just

[00:24:43] At that, you know, you know, like whatever it is what it is

[00:24:47] I'm still living. I'm still breathing

[00:24:50] cool, you know

[00:24:53] And

[00:24:54] Yeah, I live in a positive way, you know, I don't like the drama. I don't care for it

[00:24:58] You know, but if you do that's cool. I won't I won't knock you for it

[00:25:02] I won't judge you but I live my best life positive lifting people up while you're bringing people down. It sounds like your mom

[00:25:10] was

[00:25:12] is

[00:25:14] Just very kind very intelligent very insightful and wise

[00:25:22] She really was she still is

[00:25:25] She looking down and she was one of one of the best actually

[00:25:31] She helped me become me and not and

[00:25:35] And like stop hiding myself because I was used to have my sexuality

[00:25:39] She's but I was coming out letting the world know by doing small things but still in denial

[00:25:45] But she told me no matter what you are

[00:25:48] No matter who you are

[00:25:48] You will always be my son and that was her exact words and how she exactly said it

[00:25:53] So that you know warmed my heart for me to just you know

[00:25:59] Not tell her that I'm gay but to bring guys, you know that I was seeing around and

[00:26:04] she was very welcoming very loving and

[00:26:08] Nothing bad was said out of her mouth at all. It was just so

[00:26:13] Peaceful and I get

[00:26:15] Her attitude I have her her attitude her everything and this is like I

[00:26:22] Have her mindset she passed it on to me and now here I am

[00:26:27] That's beautiful. That's such a beautiful experience to have such a

[00:26:31] Awesome wonderful pure

[00:26:36] Experience to have and I'm glad you got that in your mom. Thank you. You had a big move recently

[00:26:44] So we talk about that

[00:26:46] Yes, we should talk about that

[00:26:48] so

[00:26:50] I had a big move from Arizona

[00:26:53] to

[00:26:54] back to Wisconsin

[00:26:57] To Wisconsin and what the big move was is because I actually

[00:27:06] Wasn't ready

[00:27:08] Financially wasn't ready to live out in Arizona on my own

[00:27:13] and I

[00:27:15] needed to take I

[00:27:19] Say take five steps back and that's what I did

[00:27:23] I took five steps back back to where I originally left to

[00:27:29] Recuperate get everything back in order and then the plan was for me to go back to Arizona when I'm a hundred percent

[00:27:37] ready and

[00:27:39] Financially ready because I went to Arizona

[00:27:41] With the attention is okay. I have this much money. Okay, this is gonna give me this house

[00:27:46] It's gonna get surprised my food gonna be I don't need a more than this because I'm gonna be working

[00:27:51] That's not the case I didn't think I didn't even look on to like renting houses

[00:27:57] I didn't look I went I flew I stayed with a friend and I got my own place then I

[00:28:03] Lost my place and to me that's one of the hardest things

[00:28:10] and struggles that people would admit to having is I

[00:28:16] Had to do this I had to take steps back and I noticed that with a lot of people a lot of people

[00:28:22] Struggle to admit to say hey, I had to take a step back in this

[00:28:24] I just want to say that is okay to take steps back has many steps you need to take back

[00:28:31] It's not a bad thing and take those steps back. It's actually it's actually important is it's necessary

[00:28:38] because

[00:28:39] when you mess up

[00:28:41] Not even messed up in life when things are not I can't say that so for me how my situation was I

[00:28:49] Couldn't afford my place. I looked at my account. I looked at the money coming in and me working it wasn't gonna happen

[00:28:56] It's like okay

[00:28:58] This is where I need to take steps back. I need to go back to Wisconsin now on now

[00:29:03] I need to redo it. I need to recuperate regroup and get everything back in section and then

[00:29:10] Let's move forward so that's what I did and it's okay to move backwards because it's to me. It's necessary

[00:29:17] It's important. It's

[00:29:19] To take those steps

[00:29:22] back it's almost like

[00:29:26] Rehearsing your steps if you think about it you always rehearse your steps in cheerleading or in anything you have to practice you

[00:29:33] Have to rehearse your steps

[00:29:35] Well, I took those steps back and I'm repeating those steps

[00:29:41] That I had before to get to where I was

[00:29:45] Now I'm redoing it because I have to start and it's okay to start over in life and that's basically

[00:29:50] In other words, I'm starting over in life by moving back down to Wisconsin

[00:29:56] Easy way to say is I'm starting over

[00:29:58] Yeah, I

[00:30:00] Recently recorded a podcast episode and I ended it with

[00:30:05] A setback is a good setup for a comeback

[00:30:10] and so I

[00:30:11] You just essentially said that

[00:30:14] And we all have times in our lives where we may feel like we're going backwards or we're stalled

[00:30:22] Or we're not progressing as fast or in a way that we would like to I think that's part of the human experience

[00:30:29] and

[00:30:30] It's healthy is for us when we

[00:30:33] Deal with those things with a positive mindset what you are doing. So good job

[00:30:39] It is it is very and thank you what you're doing is is amazing for the world

[00:30:45] and and

[00:30:48] I'm sure where's whoever's watching these or

[00:30:51] Going over your channel. I hope that is helping them in life

[00:30:54] I just hope that whoever's going over these basically watching and going over your channel

[00:30:59] I hope that they're whoever's having a hard time in life

[00:31:03] it's

[00:31:04] I just want them to know that is going to get better and just smile and look yourself in a mirror and say

[00:31:10] Today is my day

[00:31:12] I'm not gonna let anybody get to me. I'm not even gonna let me bring me down

[00:31:17] Yes, I have I have control over myself. I have control over my thoughts. No one can make me do anything

[00:31:23] that's how I

[00:31:25] I just want the world to know like

[00:31:28] Be you don't change for nobody if you do change change for yourself be positive smile and be grateful in life

[00:31:36] I feel like I can't follow that out with any questions. I think that's a great way to end this episode

[00:31:43] Thank you so much

[00:31:44] And I really do appreciate everything you have done for everyone and everything you are doing in your current life

[00:31:51] um for me knowing you and and and knowing what you do

[00:31:55] Um, and you telling you telling me your story of how you grew up and how I grew up

[00:32:00] We can talk about that on a next episode

[00:32:03] um, but I just want to say that I am

[00:32:06] very grateful and i'm very like pleased and

[00:32:12] Extended that i've met you and I just want you

[00:32:16] To continue doing what you're doing continue smiling continue bringing people up continue helping the little ones continue helping

[00:32:23] Like the world you're you're you're going places in life and you're doing really good

[00:32:29] You've done a lot for me, too

[00:32:32] And I want to thank you

[00:32:35] That was so kind

[00:32:37] I hope this episode gave you some tools to connect with and increase your resiliency

[00:32:43] I'm proud of you. Let's keep up the momentum follow resilient life on your favorite podcast platform

[00:32:49] And on youtube at resilient life podcast until next time be kind to yourself and others